VIOLENCE 
Manuel Lescay
lawns We are not alien to our societies enhance heterosexuality for the future that promotes marriage and, sometimes unintentionally, stigma, denial and lack of recognition of gay man, as he breaks with the goals and expectations as a man, both familiar and socially, it is pre determined.
For many of us, as for others, violence is only that it leaves marks on the body, whether the blows or the consummation of the sexual act force. What is easier to see (sexual and physical violence) is easier to detect.
Meanwhile, we are unable to detect or expressions such as half squishy see you so please pa'la thing or family strategies of silencing, denial and rejection of us, forms of psychological violence in many cases, we justify; eg I have to understand my family, the truth is not easy, but still they got me to understand me I feel good I am, they but you know you're mad, as I will bring someone to my house, even as a friend, then they start asking you who you are, where you live, where they met and the biscuit.
This form of violence becomes so subtle and natural which is incorporated as a habit or practice with friends and even with our partners, we even playing to see who tells more obscenities or vulgar words to other.
All these elements are evident gaps in sex education we receive, tempered by the constraints, humiliation, exclusion ... they are subjected and which promotes, among other limitations, emotional self-expression and hinders our affections and as we run, even when proudly live our sexual orientation to the level of traditional stereotypes of machismo, in addition to the rejection that many feel towards gays effeminate (the crazy coach, Corima, patatazas or modern women) , and also to the old or dinosaurs as he says to gay seniors.
sexist patterns become part of gay subjectivity (ours), thus producing more distance between all. Many see the weakness, lack of masculinity in a man, like a defect to be corrected, so the violence that is exercised on that kind of fags, or ducks pájaras (are these the words we use), either because they have caused with their partners or because they like it.
effects of violence are at individual, group and social. Which actually raises the need for specialized personnel to focus their attention on three levels, but which in turn is assumed particularice how or gay identity, personological traits that define us, self-esteem, social skills development that contribute to social performance and conduct of meeting and understanding and to the other, the coping styles to the problems of daily life and to that extent, contribute to a better quality of life.
For some, there are few sources that serve support, demonstrating the social problematization regarding this as sexual orientation, in many cases, we exacerbate the state of isolation, concealment, simulation and displeasure, to legalize imposibilitársenos our state.
relations with people of our own world even when they also promote violence as we have seen, possible feel included and part of something, as we often find what is denied us in society and family.
Violence begets violence. Do not unload our anger, our guilt, our anger with anyone.
(The author is coordinator of the Line MSM (Men who have sex with men) in the municipality of Santiago de Cuba. Line attached to the Office of Coordination and Information on STI / HIV / AIDS in the same municipality).
